The DIY List - 50 promises: Be Gentle

Gentility is an acquired skill, it takes time to learn and time to craft it in such a way that it becomes a part of your DNA. When children are toddlers they're like bulls in china shops and one thing that is said to them is "be gentle".  Once they understand that things are fragile, they get it and all you need to say is "be gentle".  Being gentle is sometimes hard to do especially when you're pulling out your hair and can't seem to get your point across or you really want to smash glass or walls or other items that later, you'll wonder why you were so angry.  Being gentle with the love of your life is something that you should naturally do without thought, without any hesitation.  Men who are hearing they should be gentle are rolling their eyes and saying, "I'm a man, we aren't gentle!" That's actually true - men are not raised to be gentle and if they were, they tend to hide that side of themselves as they get older.  Be gentle with your voice and tone, be gentle when your spouse is depressed or sad, be gentle when you can't figure out what else to do is sometimes the best thing to do.  Even incorporate the words into your wedding vows that you will strive to be gentle.  Find ways to show a little gentility and you'll reap love in return!